Isn’t it sometimes all too easy to be self-critical and self-judgmental? Do you find it challenging to be kind and compassionate towards yourself?
As I’ve interacted with lots of people from various backgrounds and different spheres of life, I’ve heard over and over again the tendency for women to be extreme in these patterns of thought. We can get lost in another world of ruminating over past mistakes or current perceived weaknesses, criticising actions, words and a host of other inadequacies. The sad part is that it can lead to a negative self-image, disrupted relationships and other life challenges.
If this is true for you, consider the following…
I encourage you to imagine your rumination and self-criticism directed at someone you love, such as your child, sister, or friend. What would your advice be to them? Would you agree with the condemnation and judgment? The answer given is generally NO, of course not!
More likely, your heart would fill with compassion and kindness for them. And, you would extend a kind word or tell them how it was not a big deal in the bigger picture of life. Or maybe you would say that it is not true about them being all bad and wrong in whatever area they perceive as shameful. Perhaps, you would hug them and affirm your love for them.
The negative self-talk, self-doubt and ruminating on all the critical judgments we could find and list against ourselves can cause a great deal of shame.
Consider being kind towards yourself in the same way!
- Think back to the days of playing Monopoly and give yourself a ‘get out of jail free card’.
- Do something you love to do, guilt-free. Activities that nourish your soul are wonderful self-care remedies.
- Eat a good, wholesome, healthy meal or enjoy the company of a loved one.
Give yourself a hug, because you’re the apple of His eye.