Do you ever feel unlovable, incapable or less than others? Have you ever felt overwhelmed by possible dangers in life, or do you constantly battle negativity and gloom?
Well, these feelings or thought patterns could be insights into some core beliefs you are holding onto that need to be realigned to the truth. In this blog, we’ll explore some common core beliefs (there can be many), and what to do with them if you identify them in your own life.
If you’re able to identify, process and shift some of the beliefs you hold onto, you will walk through your everyday life with a lot more clarity and balance. Not to mention, you will have a lot more peace when it comes to making rational decisions and the very thought of something going wrong will not be part of this process.
What are core beliefs?
Core beliefs are our central ideas about ourselves, others, and the world. These beliefs are the filters through which we view life. They largely influence our perceptions, thoughts, and decision-making and drive our emotions and behaviour. Negative core beliefs that don’t line up with scripture are harmful and can cause damage to ourselves and others. But positive core beliefs will result in a balanced life, rational decision-making, healthy relationships and a life of purpose.
Logically, believing that you are worthless will stop you from making positive life changes; or even attempting change. But conversely, if you think, “I am capable, and I will succeed if I try hard.”, you will naturally attempt to overcome obstacles and challenges.
Your core beliefs could come from the way you were brought up, the cultural background you come from, how you were treated at school, popular culture, media influencers and more. There are many possible influencers to our core beliefs, the list could be endless. Ultimately, not every influence is positive and not everything we believe about ourselves, others and the world around us is true. We want to bring ourselves into a place of realignment with the truth that God gives us through His Word, so that we can live in the purpose and destiny He has for us.
Remember, God knows the plans He has for us, and they are good. (Jeremiah 29:11)
Have a look at some core beliefs:
- Beliefs about goodness: I am good or bad / others are either good or bad.
- Beliefs about being lovable: I am lovable or unlovable.
- Beliefs about the world: The world is unfair and dangerous.
- Beliefs about ability: I am capable and intelligent.
What are your hidden assumptions about yourself? Do any of these apply to you?
Quick self-check about beliefs:
- Consider a recently tricky or upsetting situation.
- Picturing yourself in the situation, do you have any physical feelings?
- On a scale of 1-10, how intense are the feelings?
- What does the feeling indicate about you as a person?
- Is this feeling true?
- Do you have any other similar feelings or beliefs about yourself?
- Can you identify your core belief in this situation?
So, what to do with negative core beliefs?
Quite simply, you need to recognise and challenge them!
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